July 14, 2010

Marriage and I Do?!

Happy Summer everyone! Let me give a heartfelt thank you, for staying with me and to my new followers. I have missed my (our) blog more than you know.

Okay the window is open, and there is not a breeze to be found for miles…have summers become hotter? Yes! The answer is a resounding yes. But what can we expect in July; anyway recently I have been taking on the role of my own guardian/wali and cheerleader. The saying “taking the matters into your own hands”, has never been more appropriate.

These are the times I miss my best friend, without failure she would know exactly what to say to cheer me up – or have me laughing endlessly at life’s ups and downs. I have told everyone possible (almost) that I am on a quest to re-enter the land of marriage. Now for all you sisters who are sailing in the same boat as I…you know the combination of oddly bizarre mixed with “are you serious?” proposals that are being offered. LOL, there is a vast space between wanting to be married and being desperate to get married.

One particular brother required that his wife “keep the television on CNN and the news only, not talk much and know her place” in his home.

Hmm, now I know sisters you are asking yourselves…how is this brother still single? Shocker I know [cough] let’s just say I am almost 99.9% certain that he is still available. Email me if you would like to be introduced (insert laughter at anytime) and I will arrange an introduction. And for that .01% who think he is perfect, then masha Allah.

Seriously I know there is compromise in every marriage and through time insha’Allah both husband and wife, will learn to exist in their own harmony. But if a person is going to be so rigid in his/her wants and beliefs, the odds of finding that harmonious balance will be limited.

Only Allah swt knows for certain if and when this Muslima will ever get married. Until then I will keep smiling and making dua’s. Again thanks so much for checking back to see if I have updated the blog. Hopefully I will be able to keep it more current insha’Allah.

Oh if you hear of any available older (not ancient) brothers who are sincerely interested in marriage…you have my email.

Keep cool and Hugs!

The photo is from  greetings cards


ishqia said...

lol.. salam sis, May Allah bless u with a hub and me with a kid soon ameen :)

hijabandroses said...

lol, Salam dear sister and Ameen!! May you be blessed with a baby soon insha'Allah :) Will keep you in my dua's

Anonymous said...

As Salaamu 'Alaikum wa Rahmatu Allah wa Baraktuhu,

May Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala provide you with the best for your Deen, both here and in the Hereafter.

I've read many times that the following two du'aa from the Qur'an are good to recite when seeking marriage insha'Allah...

"Our Lord! grant us in our mates and offspring the joy of our eyes and make us patterns for those who guard against evil." (25:74)Translation of the meaning of the Qur'an

My Lord! Truly, I am in need of whatever good that You bestow on me!" (28:24) Translation of the meaning of the Qur'an

Make sincere du'aa, and I will do the same for you insha'Allah. Good sisters deserve the Goodness of Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala...

hijabandroses said...

wa Alaikum As'salam wa Rahmat'Allahi wa Barakatuh

Ameen and thank you sister for your dua's, as well as the Surahs from the Qur'an.

No matter what the situation we find the comfort and guidance always comes from Allah SWT.

Insha'Allah whatever is ordained I will find accepting.

Barak Allahu Feeki -- Insha'Allah you and your family are in good health and iman. Nice to hear from you...

mbfaee said...

Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wa barakatuh ukht!
I understand your desire to get married, and may Allah grant you a pious, loving, caring and understanding husband amin. If you could please put me in your du'a, I'm in the same situation and I guess if we both pray for each other and all other sisters in our shoes, inshaAllah we will have the best Allah has to offer... So I say may Allah increase us in patience, iman and taqwa so that we can be content with His decision for us. love and peace!!

hijabandroses said...

Wa Alaykum As'salam wa Rahmat'Allahi wa Barakatuh

My dear sister mbfaee I will certainly keep you in my du'as, that Allah [swt] may grant you and all my sisters and brothers the most pious of spouses ameen.

Alhamdulillah we are taught to truly want for all Muslims what we want for our self.

To our brothers please don't fear in asking for marriage. Let us all think beyond the physical of this dunya and see the beauty and rewards of marriage ordained by Allah [swt]

Peace and hugs 4 you ukhtee!