It's Not Always Friendship

Recently I have revisited my definition of friendship. All too many times we (me included) are quick to use the word friendship in describing someone we are in fact, only well acquainted. True friendships are rare. They are developed over time and life experiences, not by following a person on a social network.

Usually I am a mellow personality…and this may be the problem. I blame myself for believing that each person I meet or have contact with…is automatically my “friend.” Let me state for the record that belief has been greatly diminished.

My lifestyle is uncomplicated and relaxed, with very little room for theatrics! Somewhere along the way, I have allowed other “sisters and brothers” to make me feel guilty. I have been made to feel guilty for not adhering to their way of thinking. If I follow or un-follow certain people on Twitter for example, comments are made.

Friendships for me are the most valuable relationships, other than husband and wife. Subhan Allah we are advised in Islam to befriend our sister and brother. We are told that we are all united by our faith…while this is true; it does not mean there won’t be conflict of opinions or major personality differences. We as Muslims are individuals, who share the same religion. However, sharing one’s faith…does not obligate us to be instant friends.

For any sisters or brothers who feel I have offended, or wronged them in the past I sincerely apologize. If I decide not to continue a social relationship with a person…that is my option. And I should not be made to keep explaining why.

So I am removing myself from high school behavior. I didn’t play the mind games then, and I certainly am not going to start at this time in my life. The only things I need in this dunya, I have already received. Alhamdulillah whatever else Allah SWT ordains I will be forever grateful, and what He forbids…I know is best.

My grandma use to tell me to be careful in speaking, when you are too tired or upset. She would say once some words are spoken, they can’t always be easily forgiven or forgotten.

Taking time to think before I speak has proven to be one of life’s best lessons insha’Allah. To my sisters and brothers in Islam, I love you for the sake of Allah as I am required. For my friends (which are very few) I love you…plain and simple.

Bye 2009

Okay where did 2009 go? The New Year will be here in less than five hours! Around the world in every language these three words are being expressed "Happy New Year!" Kisses and hugs are shared by lovers; friends and complete strangers. I never understood the kissing a stranger thing, oh well, while I personally do not greet the New Year with planned celebration, I would like to say thank you so much for following my blog and being a part of my memories of 2009.

There are so many brilliant people who blog (and I am not one of them, smile) who write stunning pieces of works. Since I have started this blog, I have become a fan of several websites.

I love the feedback and hopefully the next year will become more interactive Insha’Allah. I am still trying to incorporate videos into my postings. Okay, I can hear the voices…”It’s not that hard Nazeeha!” Well, we know what I will be working on for future posts Insha’Allah. If you remember from earlier posts, this gal is not tech savvy yet. What I lack in skill is made up by pure determination lol.

This last year has taken me on a whirlwind of emotions and challenges. To concentrate on my disappointments is to lessen the blessings I have received. I still make mistakes and will always ask forgiveness. Alhamdulillah seeing my value and not allowing anyone to belittle it has been a great lesson learned.

My journey as a Muslima continues daily. I don’t know it will bring but, Insha’Allah my faith will carry me through. And more than likely…I will write about it and share it with you!

P.S. 2009 you will be missed.